Sorry, this is the norm.
We want the best answers for people - and good questions attract good answers.
So having a bad question redirect to a good one is much better than the other way round - and why edit the bad one to make it good when you have a good one?
It's pretty standard to do this as well.
As to the negatively on your record, I try not to see it like that (especially in this case). If you've looked to check it's not a dupe (which I guess it wasn't then) then you've done nothing wrong.
We remove duped questions, and make them atuo redirect. This means people searching with different terms are more likely to find the answers - essentially you have made a bigger net to catch the searchers.